Conflict of Interest?

We have all been there. Been where? In teacher's quorum I say. And when I say we, I obviously am referring to those living in our apartment. But the point is, we've all been there. It's a typical sunday afternoon, so you think, and it's the last hour of the block. What's the lesson for today? Well wouldn't you know it... the lesson today is about getting married. And so it begins as each young man is handed a piece of paper and a pencil. The task at hand? Write down a list of qualities/characteristics you want your future wife to have.

Maybe for you it wasn't in teacher's quorum. Maybe it was in seminary, or maybe it was when you got home from your mission. Regardless of when and where, we have all done it at one point or another in our lives. It's obviously a productive exercise, to say the least. However, it would be unwise to assume or expect to marry someone who will meet all the criteria as listed on your piece of paper. BUT to what extent do you be easy-going? Of course you can't "settle." We aren't talking about settling. What we are talking about is real and rational expectations. Furthermore, we are talking about focusing on what's important and relaxing about the smaller details.

But what happens when you have a conflict of interest? Picture this: one girl, great spiritual side, awesome personality, fun, spunky, etc. The other girl? Even a more favorable personality, even more fun and such, but maybe not as spiritual. Of course spiritually is HUGE, but at the same time, you find that you enjoy time with the other girl more. But maybe it's too soon to judge; maybe the other girl is really spiritual and you haven't realized it yet. And maybe the other girl is more fun than you thought. Maybe you just haven't given it enough time. On the other hand, maybe you have and your assessment is dead on. And you have to choose. This, my friend, is what we call a dilemna. This is the BYU dilemna.

Ok ok, so it's not the BYU dilemna, but it is a dilemna nonetheless. What would you do?